If you know me, you know I hate award shows. The whole idea of them. I’ll save my rant for another time because when I turned on the Golden Globes last night, serendipitously, I caught a golden moment. It was the moment when Spike Jonze won for best screenplay and he thanked David O. Russell, another best screenplay nominee, for all the help he gave him. Spike gushed about how David read his drafts, gave him notes, saw his first cuts and told him how to make the movie better.

You never know when you’ll say something that makes a difference to someone. So I was really touched to see that someone who attended my “Fame, Celebrity, and Other Illusions” speech at NSAI in Nashville last year, posted on facebook two questions I asked the group. She said those questions really made a difference to her, and she suggested her fb friends think about them – she didn’t ask them to post their answers – just to think about them as a way to usher in 2014. Here th